Lessons of 2012

Last year I learned a phenomenal amount. Not only about me but also, the people I surround myself with. I learned that I shouldn't be so easily lead. I wanted to write a list. A list of things I have learned in life but mainly so, last year.

• If you don't love yourself, no one else will.
• A leopard can't change his spots.
• A liar will always be a liar. No matter how much they say they wouldn't lie to you.
• You don't have to put up with crap from people.
• Your body is a temple.
• Look after yourself first.
• If something doesn't feel right, then it probably isn't.
• You make your own choices. Take other peoples opinions but in the end choose for yourself.
• Never regret. You may be able to have that chance again.
• Love passionately.
• Don't give up on your dreams.
• Take opportunities.
• Be brave.
• Don't dress and act like a slut if you want to be respected.
• Don't ever wish you weren't you.

Now these may all seem fairly obvious but trust me, after being lead astray by listening to liars and fakes, they really aren't all that clear at first. 

I spent last year with the wrong people. Well, some. I lost others who I shouldn't have. I lost me, which I shouldn't have. I lost everything that really mattered to me. Luckily I got some of it back. I made mistakes. Huge ones, last year, but I am not dwelling on them. I've apologised to the right people and I have learned from my mistakes. Now it's time for others to.

I have become calmer. I have quit the substances that once plighted my life. I am healthier, more positive, looking forward. I am spending proper time looking after myself. I am starting to feel like me again. No one can teach you how to do that.

Through my spiritual beliefs I found myself having an almost epiphany. Everything suddenly clicked in my head and I found a peace which I hadn't felt in a long time. Whether religion, spirituality or anything like that is your kind of thing, it doesn't matter; the point is, that when you finally get that realisation, your world can change. I woke up on New Years Day, slightly worse for wear, but amazingly optimistic for the new year ahead.

Times and places have always been significant to me and this new year was no different. If I could have done 2012 over again, I wouldn't. Simply because of everything I have achieved, lost, loved and learned. I don't regret any of it. I gave up a lot last year and I am not giving up again. 

Life is good and I hope yours is too. Lose people who hurt or upset you and embrace the people who make you happy. Do the things you want and just be you.

2013 is your year.